Awkward!!
That's right! Have you ever told anyone that you like someone and then feeling awkward? Have you ever wonder why??? It's simple! Emotion and logic don't mix!
As a guy with analytically personality, I always asking the question "Why?" Sometimes it's is a bad habit, because you don't need to know anything in life. You don't need to know how it work, just work it! But just for the sake of my personality, today I'm going to talk about why you should not verbally tell someone you like them (romantically) because it will not going to turn out the way you wanted.
Love/like/impression... emotion are non-logical. It is being wired into left-side of your brain. Verbal/info/literature... logical are being controlled by your right-side of your brain.
A situation I experienced recently is, I miss her, I want to talk to her. But when I call her, I have nothing to say and the phone go silent of awkwardness. Emotionally, I miss her, but when I start talking, logic kick in and ruining the emotion. It's weird how our brain are wired. But nothing we can do, just accept it like it is.
Monday, July 7, 2014
Monday, June 16, 2014
Doing the right thing...not easy
"Proximity: a physical distance between two people"
If you pay attention, you can sense whether a women is interested in you, through proximity.
Strange enough, lately I can sense a close proximity from my sister in law, and it is freaking me out. I hope my sensor is wrong, but if it is correct, we have a major problem.
Recently, I'm recovering from a from a post-infidelity of a married women at work. Meaning, I separated myself from her before drowning into her sphere of fuck buddies. It wasn't easy, i'm telling ya. Sexual temptation is one of the most powerful force of nature. It can be a torture, one side is moral, and the other side is sexual desire. Even until now, I still feel regret that I didn't take the chance and grab it when I was working with her. I started to make up excuses, such as: well her husband is out of the country, so having sex with her is just therapeutic sex to help her; or she deserves someones better than her husband; or she is currently having affairs with someones so i'm not the only person... the list go on and on. But at the end of the day, when I close my eyes and listen to the sound of silent, my mind go to the most peaceful place, where I find myself standing up like a man without guilt without resentful, I know I have done the right thing.
Maybe it is a good time to move out of the family and start living independently by myself, rather than sharing the bills with my brother. Perhaps, it is time for me to build my own little family. Peace!
If you pay attention, you can sense whether a women is interested in you, through proximity.
Strange enough, lately I can sense a close proximity from my sister in law, and it is freaking me out. I hope my sensor is wrong, but if it is correct, we have a major problem.
Recently, I'm recovering from a from a post-infidelity of a married women at work. Meaning, I separated myself from her before drowning into her sphere of fuck buddies. It wasn't easy, i'm telling ya. Sexual temptation is one of the most powerful force of nature. It can be a torture, one side is moral, and the other side is sexual desire. Even until now, I still feel regret that I didn't take the chance and grab it when I was working with her. I started to make up excuses, such as: well her husband is out of the country, so having sex with her is just therapeutic sex to help her; or she deserves someones better than her husband; or she is currently having affairs with someones so i'm not the only person... the list go on and on. But at the end of the day, when I close my eyes and listen to the sound of silent, my mind go to the most peaceful place, where I find myself standing up like a man without guilt without resentful, I know I have done the right thing.
Maybe it is a good time to move out of the family and start living independently by myself, rather than sharing the bills with my brother. Perhaps, it is time for me to build my own little family. Peace!
Sunday, June 8, 2014
Dating Tips: Never tell a women, she's beautiful
Yes, it is so obvious. But I ran into the same mistake over and over again. And finally I got it. I understand why men should never tell a women she's beautiful (unless after you have sex with her)
As men, we hate it! We hate the gray area, as we are usually black and white. We wired with either Yes or No answer. Ask me why? ...I simply don't know. It's a psychology thing. I read numerous books of dating tips, trick and tacktics, but none of them actually go further and explain why, what are the reason behind each advice. As of today, I will try to explain why men should never tell a women she's beautiful before you have a sexual relationship with her.
You see, women doesn't care how you feel. That's right! She never interested in being "your girl friend", but rather, she want to know how is it going to be, to have you as her boyfriend. Other word, what are you going to bring into the relationship with her, and the tipping point is sex. [News flag here: don't believe what women say; what they say is rational, not true force that driving her to action. She may says one thing, and do a totally different thing. Is that mean she's a liar? leave your comment]
So, when a women agree to have sex with you, that is when she totally trusted you and allow you to breed her eggs, that is when you can tell her she is beautiful, or how much you miss her, or how you feel yada yada... But until then, if you tell her before the tipping point, her intuition will raise up and and kill every bit of attraction she initially had for you. Why? Because of ...INTUITION!
Because we don't believe everything we heard. Think about: billboards, ads, TVs, Youtubes, Commercials... we are bombarded with million messages every day. Do you believe all of them? You don't! How can you blame a women for not believing what you are saying? And why are you saying it? You really truly honestly deadly 1000% saying "You are beautiful" just to express a compliment, or you saying it with a expectation that she will go wild and have sex with you? Naive! She heard it thousands times already.
Why can we compliment she's beautiful after sex? because actions are bigger than words. Does that make sense? If you are not turn on by a women, could you have sex with her? (Unless you're on Viagra). So sex express deep interest on a women, and it means she is beautiful in your eyes. Actions are bigger than words! Words after action are just credits after a movies. Got it?
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By no mean I'm sharing tips for tricking women into to bed, there is no trickery here. Nor suggesting, forcing women in bed and then tell her she's beautiful. Such behavior are outlaw and should be punish to the highest penalty. But I'm just saying, to those of man who truly in love a woman, where you find her flaws are beautiful and adorable; or you loving someone not by the pre-conception of the "perfect women" or "perfect men" or "Supermodel women" you found on the swimsuit edition. But to those who sincerely find women you love beautiful for who they are, you should never directly compliment her "You are beautiful" too early because it will diminish the attraction's level within her. Of course, there is a saying "Never say never" but base on my personal experience, I would say ...NEVER!
As men, we hate it! We hate the gray area, as we are usually black and white. We wired with either Yes or No answer. Ask me why? ...I simply don't know. It's a psychology thing. I read numerous books of dating tips, trick and tacktics, but none of them actually go further and explain why, what are the reason behind each advice. As of today, I will try to explain why men should never tell a women she's beautiful before you have a sexual relationship with her.
You see, women doesn't care how you feel. That's right! She never interested in being "your girl friend", but rather, she want to know how is it going to be, to have you as her boyfriend. Other word, what are you going to bring into the relationship with her, and the tipping point is sex. [News flag here: don't believe what women say; what they say is rational, not true force that driving her to action. She may says one thing, and do a totally different thing. Is that mean she's a liar? leave your comment]
So, when a women agree to have sex with you, that is when she totally trusted you and allow you to breed her eggs, that is when you can tell her she is beautiful, or how much you miss her, or how you feel yada yada... But until then, if you tell her before the tipping point, her intuition will raise up and and kill every bit of attraction she initially had for you. Why? Because of ...INTUITION!
Because we don't believe everything we heard. Think about: billboards, ads, TVs, Youtubes, Commercials... we are bombarded with million messages every day. Do you believe all of them? You don't! How can you blame a women for not believing what you are saying? And why are you saying it? You really truly honestly deadly 1000% saying "You are beautiful" just to express a compliment, or you saying it with a expectation that she will go wild and have sex with you? Naive! She heard it thousands times already.
Why can we compliment she's beautiful after sex? because actions are bigger than words. Does that make sense? If you are not turn on by a women, could you have sex with her? (Unless you're on Viagra). So sex express deep interest on a women, and it means she is beautiful in your eyes. Actions are bigger than words! Words after action are just credits after a movies. Got it?
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By no mean I'm sharing tips for tricking women into to bed, there is no trickery here. Nor suggesting, forcing women in bed and then tell her she's beautiful. Such behavior are outlaw and should be punish to the highest penalty. But I'm just saying, to those of man who truly in love a woman, where you find her flaws are beautiful and adorable; or you loving someone not by the pre-conception of the "perfect women" or "perfect men" or "Supermodel women" you found on the swimsuit edition. But to those who sincerely find women you love beautiful for who they are, you should never directly compliment her "You are beautiful" too early because it will diminish the attraction's level within her. Of course, there is a saying "Never say never" but base on my personal experience, I would say ...NEVER!
Friday, March 14, 2014
Emotion is non-logical process
...what the fuck!
I don't understand! maybe it's something not for understanding purpose. I have that anxiety, again! Let's start from the beginning...
I have been entering in business for a while now, almost a year. Been partnering with a more experience broker. She is fairly young, well, 8 years older than me, has 2 kids. Her husband is absence oversea for some legal issue. For that very reason, I always trying to keep a distance from her, physically and emotionally. We never touch, never joking or flirting around. Sometimes thought, I feel her pain and sorrow. Single mom, taking care 2 kids, supporting the whole family and husband oversea. I think sometimes she feel lost and relying on religious to keep her spirit strong. Especially in the business field, that not an easy task. Occasionally, I try to inspire her by giving her recognition.
But lately, something may happen... but anyhow, not my business...
I'm standing on the sideline, as a third person, observing as a movies unfold. But one thing I don't understand... why am I having a rush of anxiety, hotflush, and emotionally about it. Whatever happening is none of my business. but I can't focus. I feel worry, nervous, uneasy and my thoughts wandering. I think, I am jealousing... WHY?
Right now, as I am thinking more about it, I'm more confused. Perhaps, it's nothing but the FEAR OF LOST. Maybe that's it!! It is not feelings or any of those fairy tale stuffs, just a psychological behavior associated to FEAR OF LOST, wooohoo! mystery solved .......i think
I don't understand! maybe it's something not for understanding purpose. I have that anxiety, again! Let's start from the beginning...
I have been entering in business for a while now, almost a year. Been partnering with a more experience broker. She is fairly young, well, 8 years older than me, has 2 kids. Her husband is absence oversea for some legal issue. For that very reason, I always trying to keep a distance from her, physically and emotionally. We never touch, never joking or flirting around. Sometimes thought, I feel her pain and sorrow. Single mom, taking care 2 kids, supporting the whole family and husband oversea. I think sometimes she feel lost and relying on religious to keep her spirit strong. Especially in the business field, that not an easy task. Occasionally, I try to inspire her by giving her recognition.
But lately, something may happen... but anyhow, not my business...
I'm standing on the sideline, as a third person, observing as a movies unfold. But one thing I don't understand... why am I having a rush of anxiety, hotflush, and emotionally about it. Whatever happening is none of my business. but I can't focus. I feel worry, nervous, uneasy and my thoughts wandering. I think, I am jealousing... WHY?
Right now, as I am thinking more about it, I'm more confused. Perhaps, it's nothing but the FEAR OF LOST. Maybe that's it!! It is not feelings or any of those fairy tale stuffs, just a psychological behavior associated to FEAR OF LOST, wooohoo! mystery solved .......i think
Wednesday, July 31, 2013
million-dollars smile!
how could i ever describe her million-dollars smile?
...it's a miracle, it's warm, it's sincere, it's uplifting, it's a big beautiful sparkling smile that jumpstart my heart. BEATING BEATING FASTER FAST...
Oh wow, it's been a while since i visit my little cheesy blog :D
All this real estate career thing has turned me into a robot of making logical decision. Yup, there are 2 kind of decisions: logical decision and emotional decision. Most business are logical decision, because it aims toward productivity and profit.
But today, after interacting with her, a sensation of "zero" time and space ...HAVE YOU ever experience that feeling??? the feeling of worry-less, no concern of the past, no thinking of the future, all it matter is that very moment :)
Must admit, I am sexually attracted to busty women. What do I mean by busty women? women with nice hip, round ass, big breast, big lips...like a pornstar (got the picture now?) lol but that sexual hard-on sensation go away after ejaculation. I mean literally.
But the "zero" gravity sensation from a million-dollars smile, OMG it lasts for dayssss
I miss your smile,
Oh my mind,
Just wonder why,
million-dollars smile,
let it shines,
maybe next time,
I'll ask you... to be mine!
...it's a miracle, it's warm, it's sincere, it's uplifting, it's a big beautiful sparkling smile that jumpstart my heart. BEATING BEATING FASTER FAST...
Oh wow, it's been a while since i visit my little cheesy blog :D
All this real estate career thing has turned me into a robot of making logical decision. Yup, there are 2 kind of decisions: logical decision and emotional decision. Most business are logical decision, because it aims toward productivity and profit.
But today, after interacting with her, a sensation of "zero" time and space ...HAVE YOU ever experience that feeling??? the feeling of worry-less, no concern of the past, no thinking of the future, all it matter is that very moment :)
Must admit, I am sexually attracted to busty women. What do I mean by busty women? women with nice hip, round ass, big breast, big lips...like a pornstar (got the picture now?) lol but that sexual hard-on sensation go away after ejaculation. I mean literally.
But the "zero" gravity sensation from a million-dollars smile, OMG it lasts for dayssss
I miss your smile,
Oh my mind,
Just wonder why,
million-dollars smile,
let it shines,
maybe next time,
I'll ask you... to be mine!
Friday, April 5, 2013
THERE IS NO MEANING OF LIFE ...
For such a long time, the question (or idea) of meaning/purpose of life had stuck in my mind. It's like a herpes virus; it doesn't go away; it may disappear or forgotten for a while, but then it would come back, more vigorously, then go away, and then coming back when I'm weak, drowning and drowning in negative emotion... and there it is, again, the same old pattern of thinking. Like a nightmare, it haunted me. Like a cloud, hanging over my head that fogging my thoughts and judgement. ...WHAT IS THE MEANING OF LIFE? why are we here on Earth? why am I who I am but not someones else? Where is the manual for my life? ...(now that last question is kinda nerdy, but it kinda hit the spot :D )
There is no fucking meaning of life. There is no manual for one's life. I mean if there is a manual for my life, then I'm a robot, not human. AND I'm a human being! Life is what I am creating. My purpose of life is what I'm creating. Now, think about it. If you are running around, chasing after your own shadow, will you catch it? I don't think so. Instead, turn around and start walking, your shadow will follow you. Ok, that analogy is kinda dump and stupid. But how about this, life is like walking on the beach. Every footstep that you take, you are leaving a footprint behind. That's it! Life is a collection of footprints. Maybe we are alien sent to earth to collection infos. Everyone create their own collection of footprints of possibilities and then report them to gods when we go to heaven. It doesn't matter. ALL it matters is I am creating meaning of my life. Actions speak louder than words. It's time to take actions and stop asking about stupid questions that others planted in our head. Peace!
There is no fucking meaning of life. There is no manual for one's life. I mean if there is a manual for my life, then I'm a robot, not human. AND I'm a human being! Life is what I am creating. My purpose of life is what I'm creating. Now, think about it. If you are running around, chasing after your own shadow, will you catch it? I don't think so. Instead, turn around and start walking, your shadow will follow you. Ok, that analogy is kinda dump and stupid. But how about this, life is like walking on the beach. Every footstep that you take, you are leaving a footprint behind. That's it! Life is a collection of footprints. Maybe we are alien sent to earth to collection infos. Everyone create their own collection of footprints of possibilities and then report them to gods when we go to heaven. It doesn't matter. ALL it matters is I am creating meaning of my life. Actions speak louder than words. It's time to take actions and stop asking about stupid questions that others planted in our head. Peace!
Wednesday, March 6, 2013
Weakness
It is ashamed to admit that I'm a weak person. SInce this is a cheesy blog, i'm just focusing on the cheesy topic of emotion. It has been 20 days since the day of the outbreak. The after affect is still resounding, but it's quickly fading away. Honestly, I developed some sort of anxiety every since, but it is getting better. This is the second major heart broken experience since J-lo experience 8 years ago. OMG! but the main thing is i'm learning from my mistake and improving in the years to come ;)
Pro:
- It is an early rejection, meaning i'm not too drown into it yet
- The recovery time is much shorter than last time
- See things and understand it more fully this time
- Know myself better and know what I want
- Shaved my head and it feels great :D
- Intuition is always right, sometimes it just has not happen yet
Con:
- Bad timing because of too many tasks, career, family
- Invested too much in my head
- Not man enough to face my truth desire
- Need to be more assertive
- Not socially intelligent
- Did not seize the moment
- Early gift is a wasted of time and money
- Too logical, too deep
Wohoo! I let it out of my system. What a relieve!
Pro:
- It is an early rejection, meaning i'm not too drown into it yet
- The recovery time is much shorter than last time
- See things and understand it more fully this time
- Know myself better and know what I want
- Shaved my head and it feels great :D
- Intuition is always right, sometimes it just has not happen yet
Con:
- Bad timing because of too many tasks, career, family
- Invested too much in my head
- Not man enough to face my truth desire
- Need to be more assertive
- Not socially intelligent
- Did not seize the moment
- Early gift is a wasted of time and money
- Too logical, too deep
Wohoo! I let it out of my system. What a relieve!
Thursday, February 28, 2013
Poor girl
I am writing on my own experience, or my life as you will. It's about someone I like. She is young and beautiful, as a flower. And this flower is about to be stepped on by others, an older man to be exact :/
Seeing it under my nose, an married 40 years old man, flirting with 22 years old girl. Why older man? because they are older and full of experience. What experience you may ask... attracting naive young girls. The process are simple: attraction (smile, jokes), rapport (telling stories, share interest), seduction (using emotional words, sexual flirtation), comfort (false promises, private places)
It makes me sad, when seeing someones to fall for such obvious trap. And the future of an broken family is about to erupt. Perhaps I'm not in the 40s so I don't know. Perhaps after married for a while, people lost interest and hungry for cheating and affairs. Perhaps I will be there at that position one day :( ....only the victims are, those innocent children who involved ...involuntarily :/
LIFE
Seeing it under my nose, an married 40 years old man, flirting with 22 years old girl. Why older man? because they are older and full of experience. What experience you may ask... attracting naive young girls. The process are simple: attraction (smile, jokes), rapport (telling stories, share interest), seduction (using emotional words, sexual flirtation), comfort (false promises, private places)
It makes me sad, when seeing someones to fall for such obvious trap. And the future of an broken family is about to erupt. Perhaps I'm not in the 40s so I don't know. Perhaps after married for a while, people lost interest and hungry for cheating and affairs. Perhaps I will be there at that position one day :( ....only the victims are, those innocent children who involved ...involuntarily :/
LIFE
Friday, February 1, 2013
unpurity?
Does love usually go together with jealousy? when you seeing someone you like being happy with someone else, your heart start beating faster, thrusting anger to your head, then following by sadness... jealousy, is that love? does love guarantee ownership? when we love someone, do we have to own their body and soul? why seeing someone happy make us sad if we are not the one providing the happiness? is it not love then? what is it? what the fuck is love? is love measurable? does love last over time? is love logical? or is it just a by-product of infatuation? does love come and go? is jealousy a bad thing? who define "bad"? ...shit i hate emotion, better to be a monk :/
Sunday, January 27, 2013
Fade within time...
Time is the best bleaching ingredient of the mind. How long does it take, is depend on each person. I guest faithful person take longer time, and unfaithful person take shorter. I guess I belong to the faithful kind, or stubborness :)
I wonder how long will she wait for me; or is she even waiting for me lol. I can't really tell. I should named this blog "Phone anxiety part 2" because if I ever make the phone call, every question would have been answered.
I wonder how long will she wait for me; or is she even waiting for me lol. I can't really tell. I should named this blog "Phone anxiety part 2" because if I ever make the phone call, every question would have been answered.
Tuesday, January 15, 2013
Phone anxiety
Fuck! fuck! fuck!
I have this very bad habit, but not knowing how to fix it or go around it. I'm talking about anxiety when making phone calls. When it is a business call, it's fine. But when I am about to dial a personal call, I ended up sending a text D: ... damn it! It happened so many times. Maybe this is a good opportunity to explore deeper in my memory and get rip off this anxiety once and for all.
Yup, it started when I was 19. OMG, it had been 8 years already!!! I first like this girl in college, but I was terribly shy. I couldn't even look in her face straight. I started texting her. In my defend, I wasn't speaking English very well at that time. I felt embarrassed by my accent; it sounded very ignorant. Especially, when texting, I have more time to think about what I want to express. In a sense, it delaying time so I have more time to think. Maybe because, I don't have a good social skills and afraid of uncomfortable silence. Wow, it does work!! I have never given much thoughts about it. Now that I'm thinking more about it, it start making sense now. It's all in my head. For any habit, there are reasons behind it, and we just have to dig deep enough and expose truth. It's like a rash; we have scratch it at the right location and apply anti-itching cream hahaha
Action steps: ( I can't change my past, nor promise for future outcomes. I can only change my perception and the way I think)
1) MY ACCENT IS SEXY. cuz many actors have to learn to do fake accent; i'm all natural hahaha
2) TALKING IS JUST TALKING SH!T. it doesn't need a topic for a good conversation. Conversation flow like water in the river. The less restriction, the smoother it flow so no holding back.
3) I have learned advance conversation skills that most people are not even aware of :)
Wohoo!
I have this very bad habit, but not knowing how to fix it or go around it. I'm talking about anxiety when making phone calls. When it is a business call, it's fine. But when I am about to dial a personal call, I ended up sending a text D: ... damn it! It happened so many times. Maybe this is a good opportunity to explore deeper in my memory and get rip off this anxiety once and for all.
Yup, it started when I was 19. OMG, it had been 8 years already!!! I first like this girl in college, but I was terribly shy. I couldn't even look in her face straight. I started texting her. In my defend, I wasn't speaking English very well at that time. I felt embarrassed by my accent; it sounded very ignorant. Especially, when texting, I have more time to think about what I want to express. In a sense, it delaying time so I have more time to think. Maybe because, I don't have a good social skills and afraid of uncomfortable silence. Wow, it does work!! I have never given much thoughts about it. Now that I'm thinking more about it, it start making sense now. It's all in my head. For any habit, there are reasons behind it, and we just have to dig deep enough and expose truth. It's like a rash; we have scratch it at the right location and apply anti-itching cream hahaha
Action steps: ( I can't change my past, nor promise for future outcomes. I can only change my perception and the way I think)
1) MY ACCENT IS SEXY. cuz many actors have to learn to do fake accent; i'm all natural hahaha
2) TALKING IS JUST TALKING SH!T. it doesn't need a topic for a good conversation. Conversation flow like water in the river. The less restriction, the smoother it flow so no holding back.
3) I have learned advance conversation skills that most people are not even aware of :)
Wohoo!
Saturday, January 12, 2013
Negative energy
Perhaps I spend too much time inside my head; planning, analyzing, judging, and never taking any action. Perhaps my thoughts dictate what outcomes I am having today. Perhaps I'm just thinking too much. Of course, it is about to get cheesy :)
Unconditional is a big word. It's mean "nothing". How can there be something in life that is for nothing. Almost impossible. And as usual, there is always something for anything... I'm taking about a friend of mine. She is a bit older than me, but we can be considered the same age. Ever time we hang out, she would like me to pay for everything; it makes her very happy. There were sometimes, she insist paying, but again, it makes her very happy when I insist paying instead. To make the long story short, this is the last time I hang out with her. Period.
When someones is trying to extract something from you, that person become a negative energy of your life. Regardless of whatever it is. And the only way to avoid negative energy is to stay away from that energy's black-hole. I certainly not ditching a friend because of money issue, but because of how greediness her personality is. Whenever we have a conversation about money, her eyes lighten up like a flashlight. It scares me sometimes. Maybe there was/is something in her life that made her desperate for financial secure. Or perhaps, many trillions other reasons that make up her personality today.
It's a jungle of people out there, and it is hard to find someones with an unconditional heart. Maybe it is impossible. but I still believing because i'm a cheesy believer :)
Unconditional is a big word. It's mean "nothing". How can there be something in life that is for nothing. Almost impossible. And as usual, there is always something for anything... I'm taking about a friend of mine. She is a bit older than me, but we can be considered the same age. Ever time we hang out, she would like me to pay for everything; it makes her very happy. There were sometimes, she insist paying, but again, it makes her very happy when I insist paying instead. To make the long story short, this is the last time I hang out with her. Period.
When someones is trying to extract something from you, that person become a negative energy of your life. Regardless of whatever it is. And the only way to avoid negative energy is to stay away from that energy's black-hole. I certainly not ditching a friend because of money issue, but because of how greediness her personality is. Whenever we have a conversation about money, her eyes lighten up like a flashlight. It scares me sometimes. Maybe there was/is something in her life that made her desperate for financial secure. Or perhaps, many trillions other reasons that make up her personality today.
It's a jungle of people out there, and it is hard to find someones with an unconditional heart. Maybe it is impossible. but I still believing because i'm a cheesy believer :)
Saturday, November 17, 2012
Such a Murphy's law
Have you, ever heard, of something called Murphy's law before? It goes like this "Anything that can go wrong will go wrong" lol. Its sucks but it's true. Most outcomes are opposite of what I imaging, or longing, waiting for. It's cheesy time!
So I like this girl, 5 years younger than me, but single, mom lol. She's very cute in my opinion; don't know why her last relationship didn't work. Maybe there is some hidden obstacles but I don't see. But either way, her energy is lovely, sweet, fun, smiley cute :)
I texted her, asked her out, and waiting for the rely. Seven o'clock in the morning, my phone went "ding ding ding" I was excited. Excited because if it's a yes, then wohooo... but if it's a no, then I can move on. But unfortunately, it was neither yes or no. It's wasn't her text. Ten o'clock, more "ding ding ding" ...wasn't her either. Lunch time, "ding ding ding" ....not her either. Up until now, I realized Murphy's law is true. When I expect a yes, I got a no; when I expect no, hoping for yes, but still no; when I expecting yes or no so I can get over with, then it's just ....silence ....nada
.:sigh:.
So I like this girl, 5 years younger than me, but single, mom lol. She's very cute in my opinion; don't know why her last relationship didn't work. Maybe there is some hidden obstacles but I don't see. But either way, her energy is lovely, sweet, fun, smiley cute :)
I texted her, asked her out, and waiting for the rely. Seven o'clock in the morning, my phone went "ding ding ding" I was excited. Excited because if it's a yes, then wohooo... but if it's a no, then I can move on. But unfortunately, it was neither yes or no. It's wasn't her text. Ten o'clock, more "ding ding ding" ...wasn't her either. Lunch time, "ding ding ding" ....not her either. Up until now, I realized Murphy's law is true. When I expect a yes, I got a no; when I expect no, hoping for yes, but still no; when I expecting yes or no so I can get over with, then it's just ....silence ....nada
.:sigh:.
Tuesday, September 25, 2012
Tho* muon tien
As you may already know, sometimes it's hard to do what you
love, and love what you do. For such a long time, I have been struggling,
looking for a perfect career path. Soon
after graduating from high school, I attended college with no purpose in mind.
I had no idea what I wanted to do for a living.
The phrase “make a living” vibrated in my head as I looked through the
college careers catalog. I found
“pharmacy” as comfortable career choice for its stability, security, and fit my
ability…which is, a POOR English communicator. Naturally, I’m good at verbal
communication, but due to the English barrier, I tended to close up and avoid
chic chat. Anyway, making a long story short, pharmacy is ok; but it’s
stressful, boring, and very limited with no potential to grow. Plus, it will
take many more years to finish.
Recently, after several years of interacting with customers,
I have come to realized that, instead of avoiding the problem, it is better to
face the problem and search for a solution. I have been studying and researching
for quite a while, and I have come to the decision of getting into business;
real estate business. I have already finished the classes, and taking
California Real Estate exam in 1-2 months. It’s not an easy business; as the
economy clamping down the depression spiral, many people are leaving the
business.
Monday, August 27, 2012
Meds in Spanish
As you write la receta (lah reh-SEH-tah), the
prescription, you may want to explain what type of medication you are
prescribing. Use these phrases:
Here is prescription for an antibiotic.
Aquí tiene una receta para un antibiótico.
ah-KEE tee-EH-neh OO-nah reh-SEH-tah
PAH-rah oon ahn-tee-bee-OH-tee-coh
This medicine is an antifungal.
Esta medicina es un antifúngico.
EHS-tah meh-dee-SEE-nah ehs oon
ahn-tee-FOON-geeh-coh
It is a cough suppressant.
Es un supresor de tos.
ehs oon soo-preh-SOHR deh tohs
Essential
Medicines may be available sin receta médica (seen
reh-SEH-tah MEH-dee-cah), over the counter, or you may need una receta
médica, a prescription. The FDA website, www.fda.gov, offers a
brochure in Spanish to help patients choose the best OTC medicine for you.
COMMON TYPES OF MEDICATION
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analgesic
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el analgésico
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ehl ah-nahl-HEH-see-coh
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antacid
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el antiácido
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ehl ahn-tee-AH-see-doh
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antiarrhythmic
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la medicina antiarrítmica
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lah meh-dee-SEE-nah ahn-tee-
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RREET-mee-cah
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antibiotic
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el antibiótico
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ehl ahn-tee-bee-OH-tee-coh
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anticoagulant
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el anticoagulante
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ehl ahn-tee-coh-ah-goo-LAHN-teh
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antidiarrheal
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el antidiarréico
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ehl ahn-tee-dee-ah-RREH-ee-coh
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anti-emetics
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el antiemético
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ehl ahn-tee-eh-MEH-tee-coh
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antifungal
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el antifúngico
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ehl ahn-tee-FOON-hee-coh
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antihypertensive
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el antihipertensivo
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ehl ahn-tee-ee-pehr-tehn-SEE-voh
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anti-
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el antiinflamatorio
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inflammatory
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ehl ahn-tee-een-flah-mah-TOH-ree-oh
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antineoplastic
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el antineoplásico
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ehl ahn-tee-neh-oh-PLAH-see-coh
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antipyretic
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el antipirético
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ehl ahn-tee-pee-REH-tee-coh
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antiviral
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la medicina antiviral
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lah meh-dee-SEE-nah
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ahn-tee-vee-RAHL
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aspirin
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la aspirina
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lah ahs-pee-REE-nah
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barbiturate
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el barbitúrico
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ehl bahr-bee-TOO-ree-coh
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cough
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el supresor de tos
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suppressant
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ehl soo-preh-SOHR deh tohs
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decongestant
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el descongestionante
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ehl dehs-cohn-hehs-tee-oh-NAHN-teh
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hormone
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la hormona
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lah ohr-MOH-nah
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ibuprofen
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el ibuprofeno
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ehl eeh-boo-proh-FEH-noh
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immuno-
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el inmunosupresor
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suppressant
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ehl een-moo-noh-soo-preh-SOHR
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morphine
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la morfina
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lah morh-FEE-nah
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muscle relaxant
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el relajante de músculos
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ehl reh-lah-HAHN-teh deh
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MOOS-coo-lohs
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vitamin
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la vitamina lah vee-tah-MEE-nah
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Instructions for Using Medications
As you prescribe medication, may also want to explain what
form the medication comes in, and whether it needs to be taken orally or in any
other form. Use es … (it is … ) for singular and son … (They are
… ) for plural.
They are tablets.
Son unas pastillas.
sohn OO-nahs pahs-TEE-yahs
You need to take them orally/by mouth.
Tiene que tomarlas oralmente/por la boca.
tee-EH-neh keh toh-MAHR-lahs oh-rahl-MEHN-teh/ pohr lah
BOH-cah
It is a gel.
Es una crema/un gel.
ehs OO-nah CREH-mah/oon hehl
You need to apply it in the affected area.
Tiene que aplicarlo en el área afectada.
tee-EH-neh keh ah-plee-CAHR-loh ehn ehl AH-reh-ah
ah-fec-TAH-dah
They are drops.
Son unas gotas.
sohn OO-nahs GOH-tahs
TYPES OF MEDICATIONS
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chewtab
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la tableta masticable
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lah tah-BLEH-tah mahs-tee-CAH-bleh
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cleanser
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el limpiador
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ehl leem-pee-ah-DOHR
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drops
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las gotas
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lahs GOH-tahs
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gel
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la crema, el gel
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lah CREH-mah, ehl hehl
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gel capsule
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la cápsula de gel
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lah CAP-soo-lah deh hehl
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inhaler
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el inhalador
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ehl een-ah-lah-DOHR
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injection
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la inyección
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lah een-yek-see-OHN
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ointment
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el ungüento
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eh loon-goo-EHN-toh
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pill
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la pildora, la pastilla
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la PEEL-doh-rah, lah pahs-TEE-yah
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nasal spray
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el aerosol, el spray
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ehl ah-eh-roh-SOHL, ehl SPRAH-ee
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tablet
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la pastilla
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lah pahs-TEE-yah
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USES
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to apply
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aplicar
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ah-plee-CAHR
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to attach
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pegar
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peh-GAHR
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to chew
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masticar
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mahs-tee-CAHR
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to insert
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meter
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meh-TEHR
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to put
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poner
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po-NEHR
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to spray
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rociar
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roh-see-AHR
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to take
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tomar
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toh-MAHR
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Wednesday, August 22, 2012
Stepmother
Today I got together with 2 new classmates and finished our online finals. We cheated lol. Well, but it's not about cheating, but about step family. I witnessed how step moms and dads behaved, and the victims are no one other than innocent children ...(to be continued)
Friday, August 17, 2012
Zero(0) Reactive
WOOHOOO I did it!
I have finally cured my heartache that I started 5 years ago :D
"How do you know?" you may ask. Well, I'm not reacting to her appearance anymore. My crush-meter read zero (0), nothing, not feeling heart beating fast, not nervous, not reacting at all when I found her profile today.
Ok, so there are 2 ways to move on from a bad relationship/crush/heartbreak or whatever. The first way is to find a replacement; either a temporary relationship or a baxter lol. While the feeling is still there, the new feeling and excitement will take over and overwrite the old feeling. The good thing about this is, it helps us to move on quickly. The bad thing is, it only suppress the old feeling. Sometimes old feeling comes back and bite us. The second way is to stay away from relationship forever until the old images are completely washed away. Yike, that can take years or even a lifetime depending on how stubborn the mind is. and I did it
I have finally cured my heartache that I started 5 years ago :D
"How do you know?" you may ask. Well, I'm not reacting to her appearance anymore. My crush-meter read zero (0), nothing, not feeling heart beating fast, not nervous, not reacting at all when I found her profile today.
Ok, so there are 2 ways to move on from a bad relationship/crush/heartbreak or whatever. The first way is to find a replacement; either a temporary relationship or a baxter lol. While the feeling is still there, the new feeling and excitement will take over and overwrite the old feeling. The good thing about this is, it helps us to move on quickly. The bad thing is, it only suppress the old feeling. Sometimes old feeling comes back and bite us. The second way is to stay away from relationship forever until the old images are completely washed away. Yike, that can take years or even a lifetime depending on how stubborn the mind is. and I did it
Sunday, July 29, 2012
Career update
just realize I have not blogging for several months. Time flies... anyway
UPDATE UPDATE
I'm getting into real estate business. I have been busy with current job and studying for my up coming real estate exam. The exam is not my concern, but I am worrying more about the customers aspect; where the hell do I go to find customer??? But anyway, as a "Negotiator" I tend to worry too much about the future. Oh just in case you don't know, Negotiator is one of the main personality types. I highly recommend the book called Why Hime Why Her by Helen Fisher, discussing our personality traits and who is the ideal match ;)
UPDATE UPDATE
I'm getting into real estate business. I have been busy with current job and studying for my up coming real estate exam. The exam is not my concern, but I am worrying more about the customers aspect; where the hell do I go to find customer??? But anyway, as a "Negotiator" I tend to worry too much about the future. Oh just in case you don't know, Negotiator is one of the main personality types. I highly recommend the book called Why Hime Why Her by Helen Fisher, discussing our personality traits and who is the ideal match ;)
Tuesday, July 24, 2012
maggots
I haven't been eating home for quite a while. Today, after several days unattended, I opened my rice cooker and saw a horrible scene... maggots!! OMG, I don't know how could that happen. I guess because of the summer, heat, flies, and turned-over food I left in the cooker, turn into maggots :(
What a horrible sight! But from that, it led me to different thoughts; about life, and death. Not to be discourage, but when people die, there will be maggots ...and everyone die. No matter how rich, how poor, how good looking, how ugly, how tall, how fat, how popular or famous, everyone dies and that's the fact of life. No I'm not crazy telling you about nonsense stuffs; I'm trying to get into an experience I have encounter recently...
Last weekend, I went to a party -a biggest private party I've ever been to. The house was located on the shore of a bay, just a few steps and there was water. They also have a boat, equipped with appliances and everything. I took a harbor tour on the boats, along with 30s other people and the owner. Life is amazing! Everyone on earth is almost the same; we breath the same air (O2) eat cooked foods; we all have 24hrs a day, 365 days a year; yet how come somes are more successful than others. I guess success is hard to measure, but lets name two people: TA & TD.
- TA was a post office clerks for over 20 years; TD was an engineer but laid off, switch to real estate broker
- TA is a spiritual man going to church every Sunday; TD is a businessman openhouse every Sunday
- TA was married with 1 kid, and divorced wife left for a younger man; TD stilled married and 2 kids
- TA doesn't have a home, keep moving now and then; TD have a house by the beach hosting party twice a year
- TA doesn't have many friends and accepting mistreated sometimes; TD have many friends and connections
- TA never been on vacation outside the state, TD has been to many places, including outside US
- TA doesn't drink; TD had several DUIs
...
the list keep growing and growing. But at the end, I guess everyone will end up at the same place. Now, the question we should ask... why should we strike too high if we are gonna end up at the same place? ...or, no matter what, we all gonna end up at the same place so why not making the most meaning out of it and strike until our last breath?
What a horrible sight! But from that, it led me to different thoughts; about life, and death. Not to be discourage, but when people die, there will be maggots ...and everyone die. No matter how rich, how poor, how good looking, how ugly, how tall, how fat, how popular or famous, everyone dies and that's the fact of life. No I'm not crazy telling you about nonsense stuffs; I'm trying to get into an experience I have encounter recently...
Last weekend, I went to a party -a biggest private party I've ever been to. The house was located on the shore of a bay, just a few steps and there was water. They also have a boat, equipped with appliances and everything. I took a harbor tour on the boats, along with 30s other people and the owner. Life is amazing! Everyone on earth is almost the same; we breath the same air (O2) eat cooked foods; we all have 24hrs a day, 365 days a year; yet how come somes are more successful than others. I guess success is hard to measure, but lets name two people: TA & TD.
- TA was a post office clerks for over 20 years; TD was an engineer but laid off, switch to real estate broker
- TA is a spiritual man going to church every Sunday; TD is a businessman openhouse every Sunday
- TA was married with 1 kid, and divorced wife left for a younger man; TD stilled married and 2 kids
- TA doesn't have a home, keep moving now and then; TD have a house by the beach hosting party twice a year
- TA doesn't have many friends and accepting mistreated sometimes; TD have many friends and connections
- TA never been on vacation outside the state, TD has been to many places, including outside US
- TA doesn't drink; TD had several DUIs
...
the list keep growing and growing. But at the end, I guess everyone will end up at the same place. Now, the question we should ask... why should we strike too high if we are gonna end up at the same place? ...or, no matter what, we all gonna end up at the same place so why not making the most meaning out of it and strike until our last breath?
Monday, May 7, 2012
Bipolar
Ayaya!
I think I have mental problem. It seems like I can't make up my mind. Too many ideas, thoughts, planning, too many things I want to try out and accomplish, but none is happening. First, I want to become a pharmacist because it fit my personality. Every customer that I met, thought that I'm a pharmacist and start venting their issues and I do want to get involve and help them. But at the same times, I want to embrace my creative side; I want to become a nameless actor (cuz asian doesn't have good value in Hollywood :( ...At the same time, I want to do something meaningful to Vietnamese community. I want to host Viet Speed Dating events. At the same time, I want to have the freedom of commission work by becoming a real estate agent. Then, I want to learn bartender cuz I want to open a night bar in the future. Gods, too many things to plan, yet I still haven't have a plan for my romantic love life.
Aycarambayaya! ...maybe, just maybe, I should find a gal, marry her, have a bunches of kids, and collecting well-fare money ...so not complicated right?
.:sigh:.
-life
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