Toxic Relationships

(wow time fly. It has been 2 months since my last blog, anyway...)

Toxic relationships ...what is toxic relationship? Toxic relationship is a person in your life that have a negative influencing or limiting your ability to grow. Now what do I mean by grow? Yes, I mean growing, physically and psychologically. I'm not talking about my family because every since I moved out, they have less impact on me, literally. I'm talking about my current social circle.

Annie: she's a friend I met through the internet. She seems to be a nice person. But sometimes, being nice is not enough. She seem to lack the intellectual trait. She doesn't look bright and intelligence. She invites me out couples of times, and I said yes all the time, but I don't know what is the point of hanging out with her. It doesn't feel comfortable or fun to hang around with her. I think I'll start saying no to her :/

Tan: he's one of my roommate. He's quite older than me, almost double my age. He is a nice guy, and yes, nice guy always end last. His wife left him and for another guy, a younger guy. Nice guys are not actually nice guys. Most of the nice guys are guys with agenda, or in other words, they being nice because they don't have much to offer, or expecting something in return for being nice. They are being nice as nice-ness is an investment. Anyway, Tan doesn't have a negative influence on me, but it's a limiting to my grow so I think I'll start saying no to his invitation in the future :/

DaoNguyen: she is another roommate of me. She is too religiously rigid. She believe in "chu'a" too much. Her motivation for life is not joy, but to avoid pain. She eat only chicken and vegetables every single day because she thinks it's healthy regardless it's a poor diet and she get sick all the time. Most of the things she told me is beginning with "fear of this" or "fear of that"... i'll start saying not to her :/

Doug: he's my coworker. He's a man, maybe more manly than me, even thought he's shorter than me, but his actions are more determined. That's one thing I need to learn from him. But other than that, his perception is cripple. Again, he's a religious man. Now I don't have anything against religious people. I think religious is vital to men believe, but blindly believing in religious with no logically interpretation of one self, is wrong. Life is not one-size-fit-all kinda thing.

(yawning) ...and some more people.

I adopted the idea of "Yes man" where I would accept all the invitations from people, but so far, it has not working out. Gods, why is it so hard to find a healthy social circle. Well probably not that hard, but it's just , I haven't found the right one yet :)